Marriage as we see it...

Marriage in our society is a black box for the bride and groom, a duty for parents, a celebration for our relatives and friends. Marriage, where two unknown people tie knot and promise to love and support each other for their entire life, is an event that is too personal for the two souls getting married to each other but it is not.

What it is and what it should be? There are many questions in my mind such as:

·         Why two unknown people marry?

·         Why a girl is always supposed to make all compromises and is blamed in case of clashes?

·         Why it is assumed that bride’s side is lower?

·         Why Dowry? If people expecting dowry, do not get it, they start torturing the bride. Why do they even expect it?

All the above questions are sometimes, but not always, not valid in case of love marriages but there are few more questions that are equally valid in both love and arrange marriages. For example:

·         Why a marriage celebration is taken as event to show off?

·         Why we put so much money in it when it can be done simply?

·         Why we expect/accept gifts?

·         Why we invite so many people to the marriage party?

Please help me with these questions if you have any answers...

Thanks in advance.

Mind Blocks

I want to go abroad but my parents will not understand (Mind block). I want to be an actress but what my neighbours will say (Mind block). I want to travel alone but some random guys may tease me (Mind block). I want to wear this dress but people may not like it (Mind block).

The question is “What are mind blocks?”

I think it is a word for the hurdles we have created our self in our mind for restricting our selves. The question is why we create hurdles for our self which stops us from moving towards the goal we have decided to achieve. I think somehow it is not in our control until we identify the problem because we don’t even realize that we are not taking an important step because of a mind block which is actually our hypothesis. These are thoughts stored in our mind which actually are not ours but are of others. We grow up listening to what people around us talk about, we like it or not it goes into our mind, these things are washed off as the time passes leaving some impressions on our mind. These impressions may act in both ways positive and negative. When we are going to take some decision, all these impressions get activated unknowingly and make effect on what we decide and how we act.

If mind blocks creates both positive and negative effects, I am saying this because some people around us inspires us and some discourages, but if this is true then why these are called “Blocks” why not “Accelerators” or something like that. I think most of the time others project all their fears in front of us and all those fears goes straight into our mind and all those fears related to the particular situation suddenly comes out when we want to take a decision.

We cannot neglect this effect nor we can ignore but yes we may minimise it, if we act intelligent. One way is, when people discuss about the fears related to some incident, oppose it at the same time. People may not like it but our mind will not let those fears enter in it. Another way is to face all your fears, this technique always work. :)